Best Settings for Toi et Moi Rings: Prong, Bezel, or Tension?

In 1796 Napoleon Bonaparte proposed to Josephine with a double-stone sapphire and diamond ring. This was the very first Toi et Moi ring - which literally means ‘you and me’ in french.  

That was then, and now, celebs like Ariana Grande and Emily Ratajkowski have suddenly transformed this romantic look into a trend. The Toi et Moi ring from a sentimental standpoint will always be relevant but style-wise and on the durability side, selecting the right setting is most important.    

At Ouros Jewels, with lab grown diamonds becoming popular, we've seen how the right setting can make or break a Toi et Moi ring design. Let’s walk you through everything you need to know about finding the perfect setting for your special ring.  

What Exactly Is a Toi et Moi Ring?

The Toi et Moi ring is the symbol of partnership. Here, instead of one center stone, there are two stones that sit together. This could mean different things, past & future or two different people coming together to celebrate their bond. These rings are very common for engagements, anniversaries, and other celebratory milestone moments.   

Toi et Moi rings also come in different stone shapes. From pear shaped diamonds, oval cuts, emerald cuts, and even heart shaped stones. You can make your choice!  

At Ouros Jewels, we love helping couples create their perfect Toi et Moi ring using lab grown diamonds. These ethically sourced gems give you the same stunning brilliance as mined diamonds, but often allow you to go bigger or choose more unique stone combinations within your budget.   

The Three Main Setting Types for Toi et Moi Rings 

Now, let's talk about the settings. Choosing between different settings can be tough. Each type of setting will affect how your lab grown diamonds would look and how secure they would be. Here are the three main types of settings: 

1. Prong Setting: The Classic Choice

When talking about diamond rings, most people think about prong settings. This is the traditional setting where small metal claws hold the stone in place.

About Prong Settings: Prong settings are absolutely fantastic for showing off the brilliance of lab grown diamonds. Because the metal coverage is minimal, light can hit your stones from almost every angle. We also noticed that prong set Toi et Moi rings have this timeless, classic appeal that never goes out of style.  

What to Keep in Mind: Prong settings do require a bit more attention. The prongs can catch on clothing or gradually loosen over time, so you'll want to have your ring checked by a professional every six months or so. 

Our prong-set Toi et Moi rings at Ouros Jewels are crafted with extra attention to detail, ensuring the prongs are sturdy enough for daily wear while still maximizing the beauty of your lab grown diamonds. 

2. Bezel Setting: The Modern Protector

Bezel settings have a thin metal rim around the stone that is wrapped around the edge making it very secure. It also gives a modern and minimal look. 

About Bezel Settings: If you lead an active lifestyle or work with your hands a lot, bezel settings are fantastic. They are also good for someone who likes clean lines and contemporary designs. Plus, the metal rim makes your stone look bigger.  

What to Keep in Mind: Bezel settings are known to be secure, but they only cover a small area of the diamond's edges reducing the amount of light that enters the diamond. 

Our bezel set Toi et Moi lab grown diamond rings at Ouros Jewels have the perfect balance between security and brilliance. 

3. Tension Setting: The Showstopper

Tension settings create the illusion that your diamonds are floating mid-air, held in place by the tension of the metal band itself.   

What Makes Tension Settings Special: The "floating" effect of tension settings is absolutely mesmerizing. When light hits your lab grown diamonds in a tension setting they seem to glow from within. It is a very modern and artistic look that definitely makes a statement. People will constantly ask you how your stones are staying in place.

Because there's no metal obscuring any part of the stone, tension settings allow for incredible light performance. 

At Ouros Jewels, our tension-set Toi et Moi rings are engineered with precision and crafted by master jewelers who specialize in this advanced technique. We use only the finest metals and lab grown diamonds to ensure both beauty and security. 

What Should You Consider When Choosing Your Setting? 

Here are a few things you can look into before choosing your setting:

1. Your Stone Choices Matter  

The type and shape of stone you choose will directly affect your setting. Lab grown diamonds work well with all three types of settings. But, certain cuts may look better in certain settings.

2. Think About Your Daily Life 

Do you work with your hands? Are you active in sports? Do you frequently use your hands for detailed work? If so, a bezel or tension setting might be more practical than prongs. There's no wrong choice here – it's just about finding what works best for you.

3. Metal Selection 

Metals matter how your settings would look like. This could include platinum, white gold, yellow gold, or rose gold metals. 

How to Keep Your Toi et Moi Ring Looking Amazing

No matter what setting you pick for Toi et Moi rings, taking care of it properly is important:

• For Prong Settings: Check the prongs while cleaning them by gently tapping the stones. If you can hear rattling, then go to a jeweler immediately. 

• For Bezel Settings: These are low-maintenance but still need regular cleaning both at the top and under the bezel rim.

• For Tension Settings: Be extra careful about impacts and avoid trying to resize the ring yourself. Clean gently and have the tension checked annually by a professional.

For all settings, remove your ring during activities like gardening, heavy lifting, or sports. Even the most secure setting for diamond rings can be damaged by hard impacts.

We offer professional cleaning and inspection services at Ouros Jewels to keep your Toi et Moi lab grown diamond ring in perfect condition. 

Making Your Final Decision

Finding the perfect setting for your Toi et Moi ring is all about understanding your personal style and needs. There is no ‘right’ choice to make - it’s only about what is right for you.

If you want a classic elegant look with a bit of extra maintenance, a prong setting is what is meant for you. 

If you want something secure and modern, bezel settings are fantastic. And if you want to make a bold statement with a unique look, tension settings are absolutely stunning.

Remember, custom Toi et Moi lab grown diamond rings give you incredible flexibility in your design choices because of their excellent value. You can go bigger with better quality and get a more elaborate setting design.

Ready to find your perfect Toi et Moi ring? Shop now from our collection of Toi et Moi lab grown diamond rings! 

FAQs

1. What is the most secure setting for a Toi et Moi ring?

Bezel settings are your safest bet since the metal completely wraps around each stone. But don't worry; prong and tension settings are also secure when they're well-made and properly maintained. 

2. Are lab grown diamonds good for Toi et Moi rings?

Definitely! Lab grown diamonds have the same sparkle, hardness, and beauty as mined diamonds. Plus, they cost less, so you can get bigger or better quality stones for your two-stone ring without overspending.

3. Which is better for sparkle: prong or bezel setting?

Prong settings let in slightly more light, giving you a bit more sparkle. But the difference is pretty small, especially with high-quality lab grown diamonds. Many people actually love the clean, modern look of bezel settings.

4. Can a tension setting hold lab grown diamonds securely?

Yes, when made by experienced jewelers. The metal band is engineered to hold the stones with precise tension. Just make sure you go to someone who really knows how to craft these settings properly. 

5. How do I clean a prong-set lab grown diamond ring?

Just use warm water with a drop of dish soap and brush gently with an old toothbrush. Focus on getting around those prongs where dirt loves to hide. Rinse it off good and pat dry. While you're at it, give those prongs a quick check to make sure they're still tight.

6. What metal works best for a bezel-set Toi et Moi ring?

Honestly, you can't go wrong with any of them. Most people go for platinum or white gold because they won't mess with your diamond's color. If you want something different, rose gold looks really pretty against diamonds, and yellow gold never goes out of style.

7. Do prong settings make lab grown diamonds look bigger?

Yeah, a little bit. Since there's less metal covering the stone, you see more of the diamond itself. It's not a huge difference though - more about what looks good to you and fits how you wear jewelry day to day.

8. How often should I get my Toi et Moi ring checked?

Prong settings need a check-up every 6 months. Bezel settings can go about a year between inspections. Tension settings should also get looked at once a year by someone who knows this setting type. 

9. Can I mix gemstone and lab grown diamond in a Toi et Moi ring?

Absolutely! This is actually a really popular choice. You can use different stones to represent different parts of your relationship or just create something completely unique to you.

10. Where can I buy custom Toi et Moi rings?

At Ouros Jewels, we create custom lab grown diamond Toi et Moi rings. We'll work with you to pick the perfect setting, stones, and metal to make something that's totally yours.